# Research resources

Books

Blogs

Research papers

## Books

[The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature](https://amzn.to/4w28VEa)

Geoffrey Miller, Ph.D. (2003)

[The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating](https://amzn.to/4mWTmcU)

David M. Buss (1994)

[Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization](https://amzn.to/4vQTGho)

Brad Wilcox (2023)

[Dataclysm: Love, Sex, Race, and Identity—What Our Online Lives Tell Us About Our Offline Selves](https://amzn.to/4tEYghd)

Christian Rudder, Founder of OkCupid (2014)

[Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex](https://amzn.to/3PdytxE)

John Gray, Ph.D. (1992)

[Mate: Become the Man Women Want](https://amzn.to/4n0Ovax)

Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller, Ph.D. (2015)

[Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game](https://amzn.to/3QFAH9w)

Jon Birger (2015)

[The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship](https://amzn.to/4unjVL1)

Don Miguel Ruiz (1999)

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## Blogs

[How to Choose a Romantic Partner](https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/how-to-choose-a-romantic-partner)

Rob K. Henderson

[Stop Hedging, Start Marrying](https://www.newsocialcovenant.co.uk/mary-harrington-blog-mhhbz/)

Mary Harrington

[We Should Really Be Having More Kids](https://www.youngmoney.co/p/really-kids)

Jack Raines

[Why Is Dating Hard? The Top Reasons](https://datepsychology.com/why-is-dating-hard-the-top-reasons/)

Alexander & Caitlin (Date Psychology)

[How to Pick Your Life Partner](https://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html)

Tim Urban

[Are Dating Woes Reshaping Society?](https://lindynewsletter.beehiiv.com/p/are-dating-woes-reshaping-society)

Paul Skallas

[More Thoughts on Falling Fertility](https://medium.com/migration-issues/more-thoughts-on-falling-fertility-366fd1a84d8)

Lyman Stone

[True Love](https://www.buridansridge.com/p/true-love)

Lauren (@buridansridge)

[Gnostic Cyborg Girlfriends](https://annarmitchell.substack.com/p/your-gnostic-cyborg-girlfriend?utm_source=publication-search)

Anna Mitchell

[On The New York Times and “Enforced Monogamy”](https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/media/on-the-new-york-times-and-enforced-monogamy/)

Jordan B. Peterson

[Romantic Decay as Cultural Drift](https://www.overcomingbias.com/p/romantic-decay-as-cultural-drift)

Robin Hanson

[On Marriage](https://www.strangeloopcanon.com/p/on-marriage)

Rohit Krishnan

[I Became a Mother at 25, and I’m Not Sorry I Didn’t Wait](https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/07/opinion/motherhood-baby-bust-early-parenthood.html)

Elizabeth Bruenig

[Does the Bush-Era Poverty Cure Deserve a Comeback?](https://www.slowboring.com/p/does-the-bush-era-poverty-cure-deserve)

Matthew Yglesias

[Loving Because They’re Essential](https://chrislakin.blog/p/loving-because-theyre-essential)

Chris Lakin

## Research papers

[Evidence of correlations between human partners based on systematic reviews and meta-analyses of 22 traits and UK Biobank analysis of 133 traits](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41562-023-01672-z)

Tanya Horwitz et al., Nature Human Behaviour, volume 7, 1568–1583 (2023)

[Disintermediating your friends: How Online Dating in the United States displaces other ways of meeting](https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_et_al_Disintermediating_Friends.pdf)

MJ Rosenfeld et al., PNAS, 116 (36), 17753-17758 (2019)

[Machine learning uncovers the most robust self-report predictors of relationship quality across 43 longitudinal couples studies](https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.1917036117)

S Joel et al., PNAS, 117 (32), 19061-19071 (2020)

[Computers in Love: Stanford and the First Trials of Computer Date Matching](https://dl.acm.org/doi/abs/10.1109/MAHC.2007.13?cookieSet=1)

S Gilmore, Sandstone and Tile, 26(2–3), 1-9 (2002)

[Online Dating and Problematic Use: A Systematic Review](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11469-020-00318-9)

Bonilla-Zorita et al., International Journal of Mental Health and Addiction, 19, 2245–2278 (2021)

[Computational courtship: understanding the evolution of online dating through large-scale data analysis](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42001-021-00132-w#Sec4)

R Dinh et al., Journal of Computational Social Science, 5, 401-426 (2022)

[Attachment Style, Sexual Orientation, and Biological Sex in their Relationships With Gender Role](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7042169/)

G Ciocca et al., J. Sex Med., 8(1), 76–83, (2020)

[Matchmaker Competition and Technology Provision](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1509/jmr.16.0423?cookieSet=1)

Y Wu et al., American Marketing Association, 55 (3) (2018)

[A Diverse Benchmark Dataset for Multi-Paradigm Facial Beauty Prediction](https://arxiv.org/abs/1801.06345)

L Liang, arXiv, 1801.06345, (2018)

[Dependents as Signals of Mate Value: Long-term Mating Strategy Predicts Displays on Online Dating Profiles for Men](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8500826)

M Zinck et al., Evo. Psych. Science, 8(2), 174-188. doi:10.1007/s40806-021-00294-w (2022)

[Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6082652/)

E Bruch, M Newman, Science Advances 4, 8 eaap9815, doi:10.1126/sciadv.aap9815 (2018)

[Tinder Users: Sociodemographic, Psychological, and Psychosexual Characteristics](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7662763/)

JR Barrada, Á Castro, Int J Environ Res Public Health. 17(21):8047. doi:10.3390/ijerph17218047 (2020)

[Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review, Review of General Psychology](http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1037/a0027911)

J. R. Garcia et al., American Psychological Association, 16(2), 161–176. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0027911 (2012)